I’m Out of Excuses

Opinion by Jim Denney

I have terrible handwriting. And I have no excuse. When I was ten years old, my teacher tried to teach me good penmanship, but I didn’t care and I didn’t make the effort. To this day, I can’t write anything in cursive. My “handwriting” is a second-grade-level block-letter printing so illegible I often can’t read it myself.

Last week, I heard about ten-year-old Sara Hinesley, a student at St. John’s Regional Catholic School in Frederick, Maryland. She entered the 2019 Zaner-Bloser National Handwriting Contest and won the Nicholas Maxim Award.

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Now here’s the important part of the story: Sara has no hands.

Her arms end at the wrists, She holds the pencil between the ends of her arms. She writes beautifully.

I have to ask myself: Why can a ten-year-old girl without hands do something I can’t do with two perfectly functional hands? The answer is: I can’t because I never made the effort.

If a girl without hands can win a handwriting contest, what is my excuse for not achieving my goals in life? Obviously, I have no excuse. Little Sara Hinesley took all my excuses away.

ABC News story about Sara Hinesley

These days, I do all my writing with a laptop computer, so learning to write with beautiful cursive pen strokes is not a top priority for me. But I do have other goals I want to reach. And yes, sometimes I’ve had excuses for not achieving them yet.

But I’m done with excuses.

Legendary Alabama football coach Bear Bryant kept a plaque on his office wall that read, “What have you traded for what God has given you today?” Lately, I’ve been asking myself that question at the end of every day.

I remind myself that God has given me the gift of 86,400 seconds, each and every day. Once I’ve spent that allotment of time, it’s gone and I can never get it back.

What did I get in return for those 86,400 seconds? Did I invest them in the pursuits that matter? Am I doing the work God gave me to do? Am I fulfilling the purpose God has for my life?

Or am I just making excuses because I didn’t make the effort?

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Note: Don’t miss my interviews with Christian romance writer Robin Lee Hatcher (author of Who I Am With You and An Idaho Christmas: Past and Present), and Christian science fiction writer Kerry Nietz (author of Amish Vampires in Space and Fraught). Visit my website at Writing in Overdrive. See you there!

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Note: Battle Before Time, the first book in my newly revised and updated Timebenders series for young readers, has been released in paperback. Click this link to learn more.

And if you’d like to learn more about how to write faster, more freely, and more brilliantly than you ever thought possible, read my book Writing In Overdrive, available in paperback and ebook editions at Amazon.com. —J.D.

 

Jim Denney also blogs at Writing in Overdrive and Walt’s Disneyland

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Mentoring for Writers by Yvonne Lehman

A new service for writers is what Cindy Sproles and I came up with at a recent writers conference in Florida. We’re aware of how we were taught and encouraged through the years and want to pass on that helpful information to others wanting to enter the writing profession or improve what they’re already writing. This service is almost ready to be launched and we’ll be putting out a newsletter periodically. We look forward to this with great enthusiasm. If you have any questions, email me: yvonnelehman3@gmail.com.

 

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This is Only a Test! by Bridget Thomas

Several years ago, the company where I worked was changing software systems. As part of the IT department, there was a lot of stress during that time. In a nutshell, we had to get all the data from the old system into the new system. Sounds simple, but it wasn’t. There were many bumps in the road. I am sure at times I did not have the best attitude.

In addition to long hours Monday through Friday, I also worked from home most Saturdays. On one particular Saturday I was having trouble getting into my work computer from home, so I drove all the way to work, about an hour away. I was feeling sorry for myself and asked God “Why?” Why did everything keep going wrong? Why couldn’t just one thing go right? Why did we have so much trouble and stress?

This is only a test!

That was God’s answer. I felt God telling me that this was all a test. Every bump in the road was a test. Every setback was a test. Every brick wall was a test. Every time something went wrong, it was a test.

This realization completely changed my attitude. From then on, I tried my best to stay positive and cheerful. I also tried to help keep my coworkers in good spirits. When my husband asked how work was going, I would tell him, “I love it!” On one occasion, his reply was, “So they let you drink now?” 😉

When life gets stressful or when things don’t go as planned, if we could keep the idea that this might be a test, wouldn’t that help us to handle it differently?

I do believe some tests come from God, as He is always trying to build our character. As long as we are on this earth, He will try to mold us to be more like Jesus. He will try to scrape away the things in our lives that don’t belong.

“Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. Point out anything in me that offends you, and lead me along the path of everlasting life.” – Psalm 139:23-24

However, some tests also come from the enemy. He likes to tear us down, especially when we are doing something for the Kingdom of God. I have a friend who has been trying to write a Christian book for two years. Every time she tries to work on it, she winds up in the hospital. The enemy uses physical battles against her. With me, he uses emotional battles. If I take a step in the right direction, or step out of my comfort zone, he uses other people in my life to attack my feelings. I think since I am an introvert, he knows this is an easy way to get me to keep to myself.

“Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour. Stand firm against him, and be strong in your faith. Remember that your family of believers all over the world is going through the same kind of suffering you are.” – 1 Peter 5:8-9

What battles are you facing today? What mountains are in front of you? What roadblocks are in your way? Could it be that some of the things that you are dealing with are only a test?

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Where I’d Be Without Living Hope by Julie Arduini

Words have always meant something to me, long before I decided to make it my full-time focus. I was always reading, and many say, always talking. Lame confession, but lyrics are just as important to me. Maybe it was PMS, but as a teen my sister walked into my room to find me crying.

Why?

There is a line in Poison’s Every Rose Has a Thorn that gets me every time. The words just get me. I know. Poison. Hair band. It’s the line about meeting someone new, and what they had never meant anything. Not the real lyrics, but gah, getting me even now as I paraphrase them.

As I walked a new life of faith in Christ, words became that much more holy to me. God’s word. It’s not archaic history to collect dust on a shelf to me. It is life. The Psalms are artistry and counseling at once. Song of Songs? Hello? If you don’t think God loves love, then you’ve missed those passages that make me blush. (Please understand the love reserved in those pages are about married love, and it’s hot, people!)

Anyway, back to lyrics. As I’ve clawed out of emotional pits and rejoiced on mountaintop experiences, music and lyrics have been my anthems for those moments. This Easter season, actually all year, it has been My Living Hope by Phil Wickham and Brian Mark Johnson. The words leap off the page and crush my soul. I will never do it justice to say that this song so perfectly displays who Jesus is and what His mission was, is, and will be.

It got me thinking. When we enjoyed our Easter service, our pastor made a comment that started a thread for me to follow. What if? What if Jesus rejected the plan? Where would we be?

I had to follow that thread. And I’m a terrible evangelist, but those who have known me, I mean knew me in high school and college and know me today, they know there has been a change that no human could get credit for. When people say prayer doesn’t work or God isn’t real, my heart hurts. Hurts. Because I am living proof that prayer changes everything, even if and especially when it doesn’t go the way I wanted. And God, through Christ accepting the plan for His life, death, and resurrection, has been so real in my life.

I want to share that thread because maybe you’re without hope. I’m nobody special. But maybe through my words you will see you have Living Hope. And you will chase that thread down. I promise you, Jesus will meet you there.

Where I’d Be Without Living Hope:

I’d be an alcoholic. How do I know? I used alcohol to numb my anger and rejection. I used it to give myself false confidence that in reality, made me a verbal bully. I was drinking double sloe gin fizzes and not getting buzzed after. It wasn’t immediate, but as I slowly trusted that God wasn’t a tyrant shaking His head at me, I realized His arms were open and His love, unconditional. When I hear the words “He set me free,” I know that’s true.

I’d be divorced. I wouldn’t have even met my husband, I’m sure, because that entire coming together was woven in heaven and executed in a fashion no man or woman could put together. Even if I had, and we had married I assure you, my brokenness I entered marriage in would have sent me packing pretty early. My mindset was to leave a relationship before I got rejected. When things got tough, I was gone. If not physically, emotionally. I also would have acted on what Dr. Gary Chapman called “the tinglies.” It’s often an innocent thing someone else does that gives you positive affirmation years after marriage has settled in. I am certain I would have followed that thread to destruction. Saying a prayer to allow Christ to be a daily part of my life didn’t get me a get out of crisis card for marriage, but my leaning HARD on Him when things were tough and I was selfish, I KNOW that is why I remain married at all.

-I wouldn’t be a mom. For one, that was not something I wanted. I didn’t grow up like my friends dreaming of raising children. I was career oriented. Even after that slow yes to trading my angry life for one of hope, I discovered I had severe PCOS and most likely could not have kids. The pain I had led to a surgery where half my ovaries were removed. They were 5x the size of normal. The pain was so great I literally laid down my desire to be a mom and told God I trusted Him. That is not a prayer I throw out easily or often. Our children are 20 and 15. God also spared the 20 year old in the womb when I had a terrible car accident. I had bowling balls that should have flown forward when my van flipped. They fell out the back window like a couple of dice. The medics said it defied logic that I walked away without a scratch. Years later, our daughter was at death’s door because of a doctor error. It was the second time I surrendered my desire to be a mom to Him and said if He had to take her, I’d need everything He had to survive, but I trusted His ways. I know not all prayers are answered the ways ours was, and trust me, I plan to spend most of eternity asking Jesus these questions. And He will be okay with that.

I wouldn’t be an author. I’d most likely be writing fan fiction living out jealous and bitter of people like EL James. Sure, I get jealous at times of people who write trash and earn millions, but I can’t put a pricetag on lives changed when I write what He tells me to write, when He directs. Those words give someone Living Hope.

In short, He has transformed my deep pain into a positive daily walk where I live to encourage others. He has healed my body and my mind. He has given me tools to enjoy marriage and parenthood, even when my prayers were not answered in ways I wanted. He gave me courage to let go of fear of rejection and write so readers could surrender their issues and find freedom in Christ. He has given me HIs strength to overcome anger, grief, bitterness, betrayal and so much more not just from my old life, but even these days where I consider Him the beginning of my day, my middle, my end, my every part of my day. It is not an easy life. The tears I have shed.

But. But. He did not become our Living Hope for nothing. All of His sacrifice has eternal purpose and in my limited understanding, I want nothing more than to cling to HIs robe and follow.

If that’s something you’d like, feel free to contact me at juliearduini@juliearduini.com. There is also a much better worded message and prayer from our Easter service. Want to read the lyrics to Living HopeFind them here.

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This first appeared at juliearduini.com in April.

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The Need to Care for Others

“We love because he first loved us.” 1 John 4:19

My last child is getting ready to move out into the world.  She’s big into pets and plants. ( I can keep children and pets alive, but plants?  Not so much.)  So when she leaves, I’m hoping that she takes all the plants with her so that they do not fall victim to my black thumb.

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While we were plant shopping in Home Depot, we ran into a friend of mine who was walking her new, little dog in a doggy stroller. The dog is very skittish because it was abused before my friend acquired her so it’s even afraid of my daughter — who is a natural with all animals.  But this dog has rescued my friend.  Jane, as I’ll call her, lost her job after decades at the same company.  She has lost two siblings and both her parents and nursed them all through long, difficult deaths.  This skittish dog in the stroller has given Jane a new purpose and lease on life.  It’s given her something new to care for.

Watching my daughter care for her plants and her fish tanks, I see the same basic need to fulfill her own life by caring for others.  It’s a natural state for most of us.  We feel better when we take care of others because it makes us better humans by reflecting what Christ did for us.

Recently, I ran into an acquaintance who has been very selfish his entire life.  His needs have always come first and I’ve never known him to do anything kind that he wouldn’t get credit for.  This person looked like he’d aged a decade since I’d seen him last and it dawned on me that when we don’t care for others, ultimately, we don’t care for ourselves.  Because Jesus wants us to reflect Him and the way we do that is by sacrificing for other people.

I come from a very caring family and seeing the dichotomy between those two people this week really showed me how important it is to care.  We love because He first loved us.  As long as we’re not talking plants, I’m good with that.

 

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Positively Negative by Nancy J. Farrier

Blind! I’m going to go blind.

The thought swirled through my mind in a nauseating repeat. Yesterday the ophthalmologist confirmed the diagnosis that I had glaucoma. No cure. No going back. Possible blindness.

I sailed through the first day after receiving the news. I can do this. I’ll trust God and all will be well. Today was a different story. It was a Friday. My husband left for the weekend and the emptiness of the house echoed my fear, pinging the negative possibilities back at me until I curled into a ball on the couch.

The thought of never seeing my grandson’s smile. Not seeing my beautiful kids. No more sunsets. The flowers in so many colors. The stars at night or the moon in its full glory. I couldn’t face the thought of losing all this beauty I treasured. 

My pity party was in full swing with all the bells and whistles. Cute hats. Noisemakers. Punch and cake. I had it all. All by myself.

Yet, in the midst of my whining, I kept hearing a voice. A voice I tried to ignore because this was a party for one. A superb party. But God proved more loving and persistent than my negativity. I finally settled down enough to listen to His simple question.

“What about Me?”

The party faded. Truth swept the mess away. How had I allowed my negative thoughts to take me to this self-centered place where I hadn’t even thought of God and all He could do. I may have a diagnosis of glaucoma. There may be no cure known to science. But God! God is in charge of my life. He orders my footsteps and cares for me more than I can ever realize. 

I don’t know why it’s so much easier in times of stress or trauma to think negatively instead of seeing the positive side. No matter how I try to consider God first, there are still times when I end up in one of those pity parties when I should be having a praise party. I also know I’m not alone.

In I Kings 18 and 19, Elijah comes up against the 400 prophets of Baal and sees the Lord do a great work. Amazing things happen. But in Chapter 19 when Elijah’s life is threatened, he immediately slips into negative thinking and asks the Lord to just let him die.

In Esther 4, we see that Esther learns of the edict signed by her husband, the king, that all the Jews will be put to death. Instead of acting in faith, her first reaction is fear that she will die if she approaches the king. 

In John 11, Jesus friend Lazarus dies. When Jesus comes to the house with his disciples, Martha, the sister of Lazarus, rushes out and instead of asking in faith what Jesus can do, she accuses him of not being there for Lazarus and of being the reason Lazarus is dead.

These are only a few examples from scripture. Every one of them are there to show how God ends up working in the lives of these negative thinking people. We’ve all been there, having a moment when circumstances are overwhelming and we forget what our God can do.

I find it very discouraging when I have a time of negativity, yet each time when I am reminded of Who God is and His provision for me, I am strengthened in my faith. With His help I can overcome that negative thinking and become positive about God’s sovereignty. 

Jesus, talking to his disciples says, “…In the world you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world.” John 16:33

I know that no matter where I am at, or what I am going through, God is there with me. There is nowhere I go that He can’t find me and whisper in my ear, “What about Me?”

Where can I go from Your Spirit? Or where can I flee from Your presence?

If I ascend into heaven, You are there; If I make my bed in hell, behold, You are there.

If I take the wings of the morning, And dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea,

Even there Your hand shall lead me, And Your right hand shall hold me.

If I say, “Surely the darkness shall fall on me,” Even the night shall be light about me;

Indeed, the darkness shall not hide from You, But the night shines as the day; The darkness and the light are both alike to You. Psalm 139:7-12 (NKJV)

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“Atheists for Jesus”

Opinion by Jim Denney

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Richard Dawkins in Austin, Texas, 2008; photo by Shane Pope, licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 2.0 Generic license.

I believe that if everyone in the world would live out the Sermon on the Mount (the words of Jesus in Matthew chapters 5 through 7) 95 percent of the world’s problems would be solved.

It might surprise you to know that even super-atheist Richard Dawkins admires Jesus and his Sermon on the Mount. In The God Delusion, Dawkins wrote, “Jesus, if he existed . . . was surely one of the great ethical innovators of history. The Sermon on the Mount is way ahead of its time. His ‘turn the other cheek’ anticipated Gandhi and Martin Luther King by two thousand years.” [Richard Dawkins, The God Delusion (New York: Houghton Mifflin, 2008), 283.]

And in Science in the Soul, Dawkins suggested that atheists should wear T-shirts with the slogan “Atheists for Jesus.” He added that if Jesus were walking the Earth today, he would wear such a T-shirt because “he would be appalled at what is being done in his name by Christians ranging from the Catholic Church with its vast and ostentatious wealth to the fundamentalist religious right. . . . But of course, modesty would compel him to turn his T-shirt around: ‘Jesus for Atheists.’” [Richard Dawkins, Science in the Soul: Selected Writings of a Passionate Rationalist (New York: Random House, 2017), 279-280.]

I don’t agree with Richard Dawkins on very much, but I do agree with him on this: Jesus is for all people — weak and strong, young and old, male and female, believer and nonbeliever. The one who said “Love your enemies,” the one who forgave those who crucified him, would certainly have a heart of compassion for atheists.

Jesus would not be for atheism, of course, because atheism doesn’t square with reality and the truth about God. Jesus would want everyone to know the truth that God is real, that God is love, and that Jesus himself is the way, the truth, and the life, and the only way to God the Father (see John 14:6).

Jesus welcomes everyone. He welcomed the Samaritan woman at the well, the Roman centurion, the woman caught in adultery, the tax collector, the rich and the poor, the drunks and prostitutes. He welcomes me and he welcomes you. So yes, without question, Jesus is for atheists, too.

Of course, Jesus loves atheists too much to leave them in their atheism, just as he loves us sinners too much to leave us in our sin. So while the good news is that Jesus is for atheists, the extra-good news is that once an atheist receives what Jesus has to offer, that atheist must by definition cease to be an atheist. As the apostle Paul wrote:

“Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new” (2 Corinthians 5:17).

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Note: Don’t miss my interviews with Christian romance writer Robin Lee Hatcher (author of Who I Am With You and An Idaho Christmas: Past and Present), and Christian science fiction writer Kerry Nietz (author of Amish Vampires in Space and Fraught). Visit my website at Writing in Overdrive. See you there!

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Note: Battle Before Time, the first book in my newly revised and updated Timebenders series for young readers, has been released in paperback. Click this link to learn more.

And if you’d like to learn more about how to write faster, more freely, and more brilliantly than you ever thought possible, read my book Writing In Overdrive, available in paperback and ebook editions at Amazon.com. —J.D.

 

Jim Denney also blogs at Writing in Overdrive and Walt’s Disneyland

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From Good Friday to Easter

Where I live, it was ironic how the weather mirrored the Holy days we observed this past weekend. On Good Friday we had terrible storms. The clouds were a very dark gray, there were extremely strong wind gusts, an onslaught of rain, chance of tornadoes, and some of the loudest booms of thunder that I ever heard. Lightning struck one of our trees. There were pieces of bark all around the tree and some pieces were even thrown a good sixty feet or more. You can see, on both sides, the whole line where the lightning went down the tree. We received severe weather alerts on our phones and email. We were advised to stay indoors and off the roads if possible.

On Good Friday over two thousand years ago, Jesus was arrested with no cause. One of His own disciples betrayed Him. They called false witnesses to testify against Him. They put a robe and a crown of thorns on His head, while mocking Him. They demanded a murderer be set free, and that Jesus be executed. They beat Him and made Him drag His own cross. They nailed His hands and His feet to the wood. They put Him up in the air so that all could ridicule Him. His face became distorted as He took on the sin of the world. Jesus died, paying the penalty for every one of us.

On Saturday we had a very windy day. We picked up some of the debris that was caused from Friday’s storm. Meanwhile, our clothes and hair whipped around in the wind. It was a struggle to walk at times, with wind gusts reaching 19 mph. The sky changed throughout the day, blue at times, while cloudy at other times.

On Holy Saturday, over two thousand years ago, things were changing. Jesus’ friends felt as though all hope was gone. They couldn’t understand why Jesus had to die. They didn’t know what their lives would look like now. But God had a plan, which they couldn’t understand yet.

On Sunday here, the weather was beautiful. It started off cool, but warmed up in the afternoon. The skies were clear as could be, with a pretty blue shade all around. It was a peaceful and quiet day.

On Resurrection Sunday over two thousand years ago, there was rejoicing in Heaven and on earth. The stone that had been placed in front of Jesus’ tomb had been rolled away, and the tomb was empty. Jesus had risen from the grave. Death could not hold Him. He defeated sin, He defeated death, He saved the world. He who knew no sin, erased our sin. He did that for you, for me, and for every single human being. What a magnificent day!

It’s amazing how things can go from hopeless to glorious in a matter of days. From dark and dreary to bright and brilliant. Just when we think life has become meaningless, God can turn it all around. He is always working, even when we don’t see anything physically changing in our lives. Never give up hope! ✝️

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What Do You Want to Read? (By Hannah Alexander)

Today a friend of mine was told that readers no longer read the types of novels they read a few years ago. Tastes have changed and novelists need to change their writing styles to get with the program.

I’m confused. I would consider myself a typical reader. The favorite authors I read a few years ago are still my favorite authors. Do I, as a reader, need to get with the program?

Have I missed a sea change?

I have found that my novels are still selling. Above is one I recently priced for sale at .99 and it is the first in a series (ignore what Amazon says about where it fits in the series. I’ll have to fix that.) You really can’t beat the price, and if you’ve never read my work before, it’s a pretty painless way to find out if you would like my novels.

I realize that tastes change over time, but there are also things that stay the same–I like suspense, romance, conflict, and humor. I like specific settings. If I’ve read and enjoyed a novel in the past, I will look for the writer again and again. I’ll sign up to receive announcements about when her next book is coming out. Those things don’t change.

As a novelist, I try to write what I know my readers want to read, but it’s also what I want to write. At this stage in the game, I’m not changing my writing voice and I don’t think my readers would appreciate it if I did. I’ll be changing settings soon, but I think readers will fall in love with my new home as I have.

I depend on novelists such as Vicki Hinze, Angela Hunt, James Scott Bell, Randy Ingermanson, Kristin Billerbeck, to continue writing in the style I’ve grown to trust. Oh, sure, Jim can write anything from an historical series to a zombie series, but I know what to expect in his pacing, his sense of humor, his writing style. I know his voice and I love his setting, which is typically in the area of Los Angeles, where I spent my early childhood.

I can always count on Angela Hunt for a special depth of insight, no matter where her books are set, whether in Bible times or contemporary, or anywhere in between. I know her voice and I will follow her.

Kristin Billerbeck has a style that will always make me smile and relax and keep reading.  I never miss any of her books.

So tell me, whose novels do you love to read after all these years? (I’m not reaching for compliments here, I’m asking about your interest in other authors.) Whose styles are timeless? What kinds of novels are you looking for? We novelists would really love to know.

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Walking the Bridge: Reading Across the Board by Vicki Hinze

Vicki Hinze, Walking the Bridge

Relatively often, I’m asked to read an early copy of a novel coming out, or a non-fiction book.  Some of these selections are written for the general market, some are written for the Christian, clean read, or Inspirational market. If my schedule allows, I do read, regardless of which group of readers the book is intended to reach.  Some readers understand why I do this.  Some, frankly, get upset that I can and do recommend books that contains elements they would rather not see.

While I cannot be dissuaded by others’ opinions from reading widely, I thought it might be helpful to bridge the gap in understanding why I do it.  And that is the purpose of this article.  

To me, it is noteworthy that Jesus did not set himself above or aside.  He dined with tax collectors.  He aided all who asked.  He healed those who needed healing and sought Him and His help.  If we are to be like Him, as writers and as human beings, then we must take our lead from Him and go where people are.

When we go where people are, we observe, we better understand, we grasp the nature of their issues, and then, when we can wrap our minds and arms and hearts around a challenge, we can apply His principles and offer reasoned, logical solutions. 

We want people to see the blessings of faith in our lives and to seek out the relationship with our Creator that is the root of those blessings.  I’m often asked how I can be kind to unkind people.  How I can be patient.  How I can keep my temper in check in the face of open hostility.

To be honest, at times, it’s a challenge.  I don’t always succeed, but then I’m a simple woman, not the Almighty.  I try.  Hard.  Sometimes I’m rewarded with seeing the fire go out in eyes glaring into mine, and sometimes I see respect replace anger. Oh, there are times when all my efforts fail, too.  But that’s okay.  We win sometimes, and we lose sometimes.  That’s the nature of those trying to make a difference.

We all have roles to play in life.  Roles as a spouse, a parent, a child, a sibling, a distant family member, a friend, a coworker, a neighbor.  Sometimes we’re supposed to niggle the conscience, sometimes we’re supposed to offer a hug and listen.  Our roles change as we encounter specific people with specific needs.

There are times, when approached, we relate, and we know how a similar situation turned out when we encountered it.  And times we don’t relate because we just can’t grasp anything that resembles what a specific person is going through at the time.  Those times are rarer than one initially thinks, to be honest.  Some long-forgotten incident triggers a memory and we mentally see similarities that offer us a path to aid or cue us what the other person needs at that moment.

If we insulate ourselves from life, we limit our exposure to those living it.  We also limit our knowledge base to assist others through trials. Unless we experience—even virtually through books or online encounters—then how do we grasp the challenge, understand the obstacles, or assess potential solutions?

It’s like living in a bubble.  It’s more comfortable.  It’s in many ways easier on us. But it prohibits us from gathering experience that is essential to understanding.  Isn’t that vital to compassion? To empathy? To well-reasoned and logical potential solutions?  How can we formulate even being a good listener if we don’t understand what’s being related to us?

A few months ago, I received a note from a woman who was highly critical of the people I follow on a social media network.  “As a Christian, I take offense to the company you keep…”

That’s how the note started. We’ve all had those kinds of judgmental interactions, and some can really be brutal.  Some, shall we say, are just taking a narrower view.

When you are on the receiving end of messages such as this, you can have many reactions.  From “How dare you judge me?” to “We’re on a different path, serving a different purpose.”  None of them are right or wrong, in my opinion.  Just different.

The writer expects you to change as a result of their note.  And can react in a multitude of ways when you do not.  Some who receive these types of criticisms will change their actions simply to avoid conflict, confrontation, or discomfort.  Most won’t because in their own eyestheir actions are totally logical, reasonable, and aligned with their purpose.  

They might attempt to explain.  But more often, they do not.  They simply go on their way and do what they know they should be doing because they believe what they are doing is aligned with what they should be doing and need to be doing.

So, yes, I read and recommend many kinds of books.  Many kinds of stories of human trials and the obstacles they face.  An example I’ve used often in lectures on writing books is: “We haven’t all committed murder. But many of us have written about people who have murdered.”  

It isn’t essential to actually commit the crime to grasp the motivations behind it.  For example, a victim of domestic violence endures and endures and one day can’t endure anymore.  A parent learns his or her child has been assaulted by a trusted friend or relative and is so enraged, s/he snaps.  There are many situations where those who say, “Nothing could drive me to that point,” are driven to that point.  We, as writers and human beings, need to understand the intricacies of that.  The physical and emotional nuances. The spiritual nuances. Only then can we understand the full ramifications—physical, emotional and spiritual.

I won’t insult either of us by saying it is always easy walking this bridge between the secular and faith-based.  It isn’t. Because it’s typical to not fit firmly within the strictures of either group.  The secular see your faith and, while some wish they had it, some are uneasy with it.  Others envy it, and they’re less than comfortable that it nudges them to look at their own lives and make changes that they don’t really want to make. That’s without you being judgmental or preachy.  Just being you.  In the faith-based world, your ties to the secular world and the things you say and do often bring criticism and judgements that you’re not pure enough or implications that you are in some way lacking.

Bottom line, you don’t find an easy fit with either group, so you must choose:  Do you want an easy fit, or do you want to walk the bridge, even if it’s alone, because that is home to your purpose?

There is no right or wrong answer, by the way.  We’re all on our own journey, and we’re at different points on our journey.  We all make choices, and we believe they’re the right choices for us or we’d make different choices.  Only those who most need help among us deliberately choose options in life that lead to misery.  Most want to be healthy and happy or content.  Most want a life that is better than they’ve experienced thus far, and most want better for their children than they had.  It’s our nature.

Across the board, we all do the best we can at the time.  We experience, we learn, we grow—or we choose not to experience, learn or grow. Inaction is an action, right?  A choice made.

So, yes, I read across the board, and I recommend some books that secular readers won’t approve of and some the faith-based readers won’t approve.  I differentiate them by noting the secular books are general audience and the faith-based are either inspirational or clean reads.  That’s the best I can do to cue readers what to expect.

The bottom line is I cannot ignore my purpose to appease others on either side of readers.  I would never ask another to violate their purpose in that way, and I don’t expect to have that asked of me.  On occasion, it is.  More is the pity.  But that’s out of my control.  What is in my control is to do what I know I should and must do, and that’s why I’ll continue to walk the bridge.

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Some Thoughts Before Easter

by Ray Stedman,
introduced by Jim Denney
from Ray Stedman on Leadership,
new from Discovery House Publishers

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Ray StedmanRay Stedman was the pastor of Peninsula Bible Church in Palo Alto, California, for four decades, from 1950 until his retirement in 1990. I began working as Ray’s writing partner in 1992, the final year of his life. He was a faithful expositor of the Scriptures and a leader of character and integrity. For more than twenty-five years, I’ve been privileged to work with transcripts and recordings of his sermons, helping to turn them into books with the help and blessing of Ray’s widow, Elaine Stedman. As we approach Easter Sunday, the Day of Resurrection, I thought it would be helpful and inspiring to read Ray’s thoughts on the days just prior to the death of the greatest Leader who ever lived, Jesus of Nazareth. Here’s an excerpt:

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“Death of a Leader,” adapted from Ray Stedman on Leadership

In Mark 10, Jesus and His disciples were on the road to Jerusalem, and Jesus began talking to them about death — His own fast-approaching death. They are moving into the final week before the cross. Jesus clearly foresaw all that it would entail, and he was determined to face what was to come:

They were on their way up to Jerusalem, with Jesus leading the way, and the disciples were astonished, while those who followed were afraid. Again he took the Twelve aside and told them what was going to happen to him. “We are going up to Jerusalem,” he said, “and the Son of Man will be delivered over to the chief priests and the teachers of the law. They will condemn him to death and will hand him over to the Gentiles, who will mock him and spit on him, flog him and kill him. Three days later he will rise.” (Mark 10:32-34)

Once again, Jesus told the disciples that He was about to suffer and die — and this time, He provided more details. And again, He also promised His resurrection after three days.

It’s significant that Jesus went in the lead, alone, with no one at His side. His band of disciples walked along behind him — and behind them was the multitude who always waited upon His teaching. Mark tells us that those who followed Jesus “were afraid.” Both the disciples and the crowd felt a sense of approaching crisis.

Ray Stedman on Leadership - ExtIn this prediction of His death, He included details He had never revealed before: the chief priests and teachers of the law were going to hand Him over to the Gentiles. The Roman oppressors were going to mock him, spit on Him, flog Him, and execute Him. How did Jesus know what was going to happen? He knew the Scriptures — passages like Isaiah 53 and Psalm 22 that predicted the suffering and death of the Messiah.

But even after Jesus told them plainly about His death, the disciples didn’t understand — or didn’t want to understand — what awaited Him. They didn’t understand the Old Testament passages about the suffering Messiah. They still expected Jesus to be the triumphant Messiah. With the benefit of hindsight, we understand that the Messiah had to go through the suffering of the cross before He could come into His glory. Because of their lack of understanding, two disciples stepped forward and boldly asked a favor of Jesus:

Then James and John, the sons of Zebedee, came to him. “Teacher,” they said, “we want you to do for us whatever we ask.”

“What do you want me to do for you?” he asked.

They replied, “Let one of us sit at your right and the other at your left in your glory” (Mark 10:35-37).

Though Jesus spoke of His coming death, James and John were focused on His eventual glory. They asked that Jesus give them each a place at His side. Many Bible teachers have criticized the sons of Zebedee for this request, but I don’t believe they were wrong to ask. Jesus gave them every reason to make this request.

Matthew records an earlier conversation Jesus had with the Twelve, when He said, “Truly I tell you, at the renewal of all things, when the Son of Man sits on his glorious throne, you who have followed me will also sit on twelve thrones, judging the twelve tribes of Israel” (Matthew 19:28). By faith, James and John believed that twelve thrones awaited them.

They didn’t ask for anything wrong. Jesus said to them that what they wanted was right, but they were going about it the wrong way:

“You don’t know what you are asking,” Jesus said. “Can you drink the cup I drink or be baptized with the baptism I am baptized with?”

“We can,” they answered.

Jesus said to them, “You will drink the cup I drink and be baptized with the baptism I am baptized with, but to sit at my right or left is not for me to grant. These places belong to those for whom they have been prepared” (Mark 10:38-40).

He said, in effect, “You are asking for a good thing, but you are asking in ignorance. You don’t know what you will have to go through to sit next to Me in glory.” Jesus knew the price and was ready to pay it. James and John thought they knew the price, but they had no idea what lay before them.

Jesus spoke of the cup He would drink and the baptism He would undergo. He would speak of this same cup in His prayer in the Garden of Gethsemane: “Father, if you are willing, take this cup from me; yet not my will, but yours be done” (Luke 22:42).

The cup spoke of the entire spectrum of events that would soon engulf Him — the violent suffering, the emotional and spiritual agony, the rejection, the mocking and scourging, and ultimately death on the cross. Baptism was a common image in Israelite culture; when the Israelites left Egypt they were “baptized into Moses” in the Red Sea (see 1 Corinthians 10:2). The sea opened up, the people walked between walls of water, and they were surrounded by the sea. It was a symbolic picture of passing through death and rising in resurrection.

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The Lord said to James and John, in effect, “This is the price of glory. Are you able to pay it?” In their human over-confidence, they said, “We can.”

What did Jesus mean when he said that James and John would “drink the cup I drink”? He was saying that they would suffer the reproach and anguish of martyrdom. History records that James was the first of the apostles to be martyred (he was beheaded by Herod, as recorded in Acts 22). John was the last of the apostles to die. These two brothers form a “parenthesis of martyrdom.” All the other apostles were martyred for their faith between these two brothers.

History doesn’t tell us how John died. We do know he was exiled to the island of Patmos because of his testimony for the Lord Jesus. There he suffered for the Lord’s sake, and also received the vision that forms the Book of Revelation.

Leadership is the art of accomplishing great things through other people. Jesus started with twelve ordinary men, and through His leadership, He transformed them into the foundation for a global spiritual movement, the church. He taught them and poured His life into them. With the lone exception of Judas the traitor, they all became leaders, living as He lived, teaching as He taught, leading as He led — and finally, dying as He died.

“I want to know Christ — yes, to know the power of his resurrection and participation in his sufferings, becoming like him in his death, and so, somehow, attaining to the resurrection from the dead.” —Philippians 3:10-11

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Note from Jim Denney: While working on Ray Stedman on Leadership, I spent many rewarding hours reading Ray’s other books—Body Life, Adventuring Through the Bible, God’s Unfinished Book, Psalms: Folk Songs of Faith, and more. From them, I distilled Ray’s most practical and penetrating leadership wisdom into forty daily readings. Each entry is followed by a set of discussion and reflection questions, making this an ideal study book for a church board or committee, home Bible study, adult Sunday school class, Christian business, mission team, or any other setting where biblical leadership plays a key role.


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40 Lessons from an Influential Mentor

by Ray Stedman with Jim Denney;
foreword by Charles R. Swindoll

available at your local Christian bookstore, at Barnes and Noble, at Amazon.com, and at Christianbook.com.
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What’s the advantage to valley moments?

Whenever life gets rough, I try to focus on the lesson God has for me in that moment.  Sometimes, things are so uncomfortable, you have to change life, but what happens when you’re stuck for a time and God has you stuck?  Personally, I try to focus on the advantages.

My latest struggle is that I’m temporarily in a one bedroom upstairs apartment with my 18-year-old daughter.  And I recently inherited my sons’ dog.  I should mention that this dog is annoying and has some terrible traits.  For example, she was trained to bite at anyone if you try to wake someone.  My second-oldest liked to sleep in and taught her that.  Cute, right?  Not so much.

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However, the apartment is upstairs and that means I have to take the dog out morning, noon and night.  Which is a pain, but I am handicapped with MS so it FORCES me to get out and walk. Even when my body doesn’t want to.  That’s an advantage!

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It also forces me to be social.  (I could easily be a writing hermit if it weren’t for my daily Starbucks’ visit.) So now, I go to the park and I meet up with other dog owners and I have human connection and conversation!  (Conversation aside from telling my daughter to clean our room and stop buying iTunes.)

When God has you in a holding pattern, do you try to look at the why and be grateful for the advantages?  If Mary could have a baby in a stable and Paul could write the epistles from jail, I figure I can handle a yappy dog in an apartment.  Until my son gets home.

Then, this dog is SOOO his.  I told him this dog will probably live until two days before he’s free.  (She’s already 12!)

 

 

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Deadlines by Tara Randel

We all know what today is, the final day to file our taxes. Either you are getting money back, which means you’ve most likely sent the forms in by now, or you have to pay, which means you wait until the very last day to pay. Could I have come up with a more fitting date than today to talk about deadlines?

You don’t have to be a writer to appreciate deadlines. Having a job will always keep you busy with projects or appointment dates. If you still have children at home, you have a calendar of school, extracurricular or sports activities. Maybe you volunteer at church or with organizations in the community. Any or all of the above teach you to keep looking ahead to make sure you don’t miss a thing.

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One of the practical aspects of being a writer is that I have deadlines. It’s part of the writer’s life. If I’ve learned anything since becoming published, it’s to be flexible at different points in creating a book. Thankfully, the thought of finishing a project by a certain date doesn’t make me nervous. I like having the big picture laid out in advance so I know how to budget my time.

When I’m working on a book, there are a few different phases. The first is to come up with the story idea. Once I’ve worked out all the logistics, I begin to work on a synopsis which is sent to my editor. If the book or books go under contract, then I have firm due dates for every stage of the book. For instance, the complete manuscript for the book I’m working on right now is due on May 1. The last month is always the busiest because I finish writing the draft and then I edit, read, edit, and reread until it is in good shape to send in. You’d think that would be the end, but no. Once my editor reads the manuscript, I will have to do revisions. Now, there isn’t a deadline date on when my editor will send the manuscript back to me, but if I’ve already started another project, I’ll have to put that project aside while I work on the revisions. And once the book goes into production, I look forward to the release date.

In between the big picture of working on a book are a lot of other deadlines. If I write a blog, like this or another I participate in, I have specific dates to post. I may schedule an interview or book tour around the release date of a new book. Let me just say, I keep a weekly planner by my computer so I’m always up to date. If anything new comes in, it goes right into the planner so I’m prepared.

Life is busy for everyone and having due dates are part of the ride. If you have a particular deadline coming up, I wish you the best. As for me, it’s back to my current work in progress. Just another day in the life of a writer.

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Tara Randel is an award-winning, USA Today bestselling author. Family values, a bit of mystery and of course, love and romance, are her favorite themes, because she believes love is the greatest gift of all. Look for her next Harlequin Heartwarming romance, Trusting Her Heart , available in August.  Visit Tara at www.tararandel.com. Like her on Facebook at http://www.facebook.com/TaraRandelBooks. Sign up for Tara’s Newsletter and receive a link to download a free digital book.

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Consider the Wild Flowers

By Jim Denney

A couple of times over the past few weeks, I’ve put off writing for the day, and my wife and I have gone out to see the brilliant “super bloom” in southern California in the wake of the recent rains. So, for this week’s column, no opinions or grand thoughts of my own — just glimpses of orange poppies, yellow mustard, and purple lupine.

Oh, and these great thoughts from the Lord Himself: Consider how the wild flowers grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you, not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today, and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, how much more will he clothe you — you of little faith! (Luke 12:27-28). 

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Note: Battle Before Time, the first book in my newly revised and updated Timebenders series for young readers, has been released in paperback. Click this link to learn more.

And if you’d like to learn more about how to write faster, more freely, and more brilliantly than you ever thought possible, read my book Writing In Overdrive, available in paperback and ebook editions at Amazon.com. —J.D.

 

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A Different Spin to God’s Timing

When we think about God’s timing, usually we think about waiting. Often times there is something that we want to see in our lives, but it doesn’t happen as quickly as we would prefer. It could pertain to landing a new job, starting a family, moving to a new home, losing weight, or any other goal we have. In these cases, we might remind ourselves to trust God’s timing.

 

However, I have recently been seeing God’s timing in a different way. Sometimes things happen in our lives that we would prefer not to happen right now, or not to happen at all. Or perhaps we might have certain plans in mind, but they go a different way instead. In some cases, these things I am talking about could be something major. But more often, they are small inconveniences. The good news is that they can teach us something, if we are willing to learn.

 

1 – Trust

 

We can learn to trust God and His timing.

 

We have a friend who is neighbors with a family member. The family member adopted a small dog about a year ago or so. Long story short, our friend spent a lot of time with the pup, so the family member gave her to our friend. Sadly, our friend has recently learned that he has cancer. So we now see what a blessing it has been to have this dog come into his life. She brings him smiles and laughter, when everything else in his life seems dim. This showed me to trust God’s timing. He brought the dog into our friend’s life at just the right time.

 

2 – Dying to Self

 

We can learn to “die to self” or basically put our selfish desires on the back burner.

 

My husband recently invited someone to our house for dinner on the spur of the moment. Since it was a last minute thing, instead of resting that weekend as I had hoped, we had to clean up the house and do some cooking. I admit that due to lack of sleep, I felt easily frustrated. I wondered why we couldn’t have planned ahead, so that we had better time to prepare. This is when I had an “aha moment” regarding God’s timing. I knew then that instead of focusing on what I wanted, this was a chance to be a blessing to someone else. You see, the friends that we had over were going through some difficulties, so spending quality time with loved ones likely did their hearts some good.

 

3 – Patience

 

We can learn patience when God’s timing does not align with our own.

 

Patience seems to be something many of us have to continually work on, myself included. And I have plenty of opportunities! In this case, I don’t mean the kind of patience we need when waiting for something. Rather, it is more like the patience we need to keep ourselves from getting irritated when life doesn’t go our way. One evening this week I had plans to sit down and write, yet instead I had another learning opportunity. When I got home from work, nothing went as I had hoped. It’s not that anything bad happened, but there were numerous little things that commandeered my time. So I had to remind myself that this was a chance to practice patience. In the end, I do believe God’s timing was perfect, because when I did finally find the time to do some writing, He reminded me of key points that I needed to add. If I had written when I wanted to, those important facts might have been missed.

 

“Yet God has made everything beautiful for its own time. He has planted eternity in the human heart, but even so, people cannot see the whole scope of God’s work from beginning to end.” – Ecclesiastes 3:11

 

I am learning that God’s timing is always better than my own. Whether I want something to happen sooner, later, or not at all – God always knows what is best. And He is always working things out for our good and His glory. He can see the beginning and the end. Knowing this gives me a sense of peace. When I allow God to direct my steps, I have nothing to worry about.

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