I was recently struck by something my son shared as he is in a new season. In less than a year after college graduation he started teaching, moved out, and married. Even as he returned to teach, he learned what he taught last year was no longer the plan. He was teaching two classes that better fit his degree and interests. With all the transition he said, “Mom, not even what I eat for breakfast is the same.”
Change is hard. I’m a bit surprised I’m in the middle of transition. I thought his move and marriage was about him, and it is. I thought our daughter’s graduation and college start, even online from home, would be her change. Yet, I am shocked by how lonely it’s been. Quiet. So, so quiet, and we are a quiet family. It’s rocked my routine and thought life.
It’s uncomfortable. Like breaking in new shoes or an outfit.
Or, maybe shedding that old wineskin.
Matthew 9 is where God has placed me as I pray for the kids and all the transition. If only there was a promise that after the wedding life was easy-peasy for the first year. Honestly? The first year is usually one of the hardest. In our case it wasn’t getting to know each other and our personalities, it was my chronic pain from PCOS and endometriosis. That’s a rough way to start a marriage.
It’s even harder when you try to keep the new things stored in the old ways. Of course, God does not change. But to live Kingdom minded, we’re going to have to make changes. It’s more than an address or marital status. The faith I worked with last year isn’t enough. The Bible knowledge I had even six months ago isn’t going to cut it. I need to press in and receive the uncomfortable stretch God is taking me through. The praise is the new wineskin holds so much goodness. Insisting on pouring it in the old? That old leather pouch will burst. And you’re left with a mess.—Julie Arduini
I’ve been through transition enough to know God is in it and trust He has our best in mind. It’s still hard watching your loved ones navigate their faith when change and adversity hit. Like my son, I’d love to see the fruit come now. But I also know if he’s given it too soon, it’s not ripe.
Are you feeling an uncomfortable stretch? Are things changing? Don’t fight it. Consider the wineskin. Embrace the new and believe God is with you every step of the way.